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May. 1st, 2007

Talked to my dad this morning. He said that he hasn't been feeling up to doing much of anything, which doesn't surprise me at this point. Two of his friends have been taking care of him for the past month, plus he's had hospice nurses coming by, so he's getting a lot of care. His friends, Kenny and Donna, will be going home soon, probably just in time for my visit. I don't know how much care my dad needs, but I'll bet I'll be in the position of providing that care while I'm there. It makes me very anxious, because I don't even know how to cook, let alone anything else. I've never had to take care of someone else before, more than heating up soup and buying Kleenex for somebody who had the flu.

*fret fret fret*



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May. 1st, 2007 07:15 pm (UTC)
Caretaking is both a bunch of specific skills (which can be learned, and prepared for) and also an instinct for kindness and gentleness, which you have. It will be okay. And your Aunt Marlys will help.

Let me know if you have specific questions or fears?
May. 1st, 2007 07:38 pm (UTC)
My Aunt Marlys won't be there, so I'll be on my own most of the time. My step-grandmother will be there at some point, and she's a nurse, but I don't know how long she'll be visiting. Same thing with my Aunts Bobbie and Kim. They'll probably only be there for a day or two. And none of them will be staying with my dad like I will.

I wouldn't even know what questions to ask. I have no idea how much help -- and what kind -- he'll need. If I can think of anything specific, I'll definitely ask you. Thanks.
May. 1st, 2007 08:45 pm (UTC)
I assume the hospice nurses will continue to come by while you're there?

Maybe you can contact them to ask questions?
May. 1st, 2007 11:38 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I assume the hospice nurse will continue stopping in while I'm there, but I'm not sure how much time they spend with my dad. Not much is my assumption. I'm not sure what they do, actually.

I'm not sure how my dad would feel about me contacting any of his caregivers directly. First I should probably try to drag more info out of my dad re: what he means when he says his friends have been "taking care" of him.
May. 2nd, 2007 12:18 am (UTC)
Sorry about the extra stress. I think we all have untapped resources that come to the forefront in situations like this, so I believe you'll be fine. But it can't make the waiting any easier.
May. 2nd, 2007 04:51 am (UTC)
Soup is good food!
I'm sure the hospice nurses will have everything all sorted out.
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