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The Slow Death of LiveJournal

Some people seem to believe that LJ is dying, and I must admit that I've noticed the complete and prolonged absence of some of my friends who used to write frequently. In fact, my "Friends" feed is now mostly communities.

It makes me sad. Even LJ friends I've met in real life have just vanished. I recently emailed one friend I've felt particularly close to for years, and she didn't even respond to my email. I see some LJers posting to Facebook, but it isn't the same. You don't really know someone through Facebook. You might know what their cat looks like when it's doing something cute, but you don't know that person's heart.

I haven't been in this situation before, but I guess maybe online friendships are always like this: you get close to people, share your deepest cares and theirs, and then eventually they just walk away. You become irrelevant to their lives. I'm not like that, and I find myself sometimes wondering what has happened to online friends I once loved who have left me behind and moved on to the next thing in their lives. What happened to tiashome after she said goodbye and left LJ in 2004? What about soulstar? And how's margarks doing, now that she hasn't really posted anything but fic for the last year, and rarely even that? Maybe I just get more attached than most. I learned so much about these people's inner lives -- their hurts and joys and hopes -- and now they're gone from my life forever, just fading into the shadows. Moving on.

I want you to know, those of you still reading this, that I'll miss you if you leave, especially those of you who have opened your hearts to me. When you're gone, I'll wonder if you're happy or sad, because I honestly care. I see you as people, not as pixels, and you're very real to me. I do realize that these friendships will eventually fade -- probably all of them, except for you locals I knew before we were on LJ -- so I'm not trying to fight it, but I'll grieve. I already do. It probably makes me naive, but I do.


( 7 comments — Leave a comment )
Jan. 23rd, 2013 02:12 am (UTC)
Right there with you. I remind myself that life goes in phases but it's still sad. :-(
Jan. 23rd, 2013 02:48 am (UTC)
LiveJournal has a friendslock that I trust, unlike Facebook. And I tend to think in essays, not sentences -- I can't get my ideas across on FB.

I use FB for pictures and short thoughts -- and my non-friends-locked stuff from LJ is crossposted.
Jan. 23rd, 2013 08:40 pm (UTC)
I don't think the problem is that people don't care - but LiveJournal hasn't updated its user interface in any meaningful way in years, and it is very painful to use. It's a shame that there aren't viable alternatives, because LJ really was ahead of its time in terms of privacy, friends list management, locking posts, etc...
Jan. 23rd, 2013 08:41 pm (UTC)
I don't think it's that people want to stop writing to their friends - but LiveJournal hasn't meaningfully updated its UI in years and it is painful to use. It's a shame because they were ahead of their time in terms of privacy settings, locked posts, friends list management...
Jan. 24th, 2013 03:31 am (UTC)
Still here. Still reading. Still writing. Will do so until I am no longer able to do so. *hugs*
Jan. 24th, 2013 05:27 am (UTC)
I still read my flist daily! I just rarely post. I plan, and then I get lazy. :)
Feb. 2nd, 2013 11:55 pm (UTC)
I'm not writing much these days, but I'm still reading. Writing all day for work, and having a toddler, is taking up a lot of my time! I still think of posts to make, just rarely when I'm at the computer.

Please keep posting. I enjoy reading you very much.
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